Missing Someone During The Holidays
I am enjoying my bowl of Sinigang (Filipino Tamarind Soup) as he sits down to have a chat with me during my lunch break. The conversation starts with holiday meals and eventually moves into a discussion of family members.
He began to share stories about his Mother and about her passing a few years ago with liver complications. His openness to share his feelings and emotions with me about his Mother, impressed me. He adored her dearly, a very close relationship between Mother and Son. She to him was the advisor, someone he console to during troubled times. How she made him delicious soup when he was sick brought giggles to him. Most importantly, he misses her presence. Her lack of presence during the holiday season is significant to the point where his sadness can lead to his depression.
This man is one of several people who recently shared their melancholy state with me in recent weeks in the midst of our holiday season.
You may no longer have the physical experience with your passed loved ones but your relationship with them continues energetically, spiritually if you choose to. In those moments when you begin to miss them, you are able to connect and communicate with them by simply becoming utterly quiet. You may even choose to have an inner dialogue with them. You have every once of capacity to communicate with them if your willingness exists. First believe that you have this ability and begin practicing without fear.
If the dialogue with your passed loved ones does not occur, they will communicate through your five physical senses. The smell of your favourite dish they used to make or through the sound of music. When you call out for your passed loved one, listen and pay attention. They are always close by.
It is the most wonderful time of the year for plenty of people. However, there are many who are experiencing quite the opposite during this time of year. I remind people, It is perfectly fine to be going through these feelings of sadness and sometimes depression. It is what you are going through now and it is all part of your human experience.